Money is a valuable means of exchange that is generally acceptable. In many places around the world, virtually every activity revolves around money and its uses. Buying, selling, paying bills, storing values of items, among many other uses.
Giving people money is a charitable act which many people engage in, from time to time. It is a noble act, and worthy of emulation. There are actually times when one might be so much in lack, and the only thing he or she can do is to ask another person, especially one who he feels is better off financially. That person can then choose to help the person by giving them some money which will be useful for their sustenance in the time being.
However, there are some situations where it is not really advisable to give people money. It is always good to give, no doubt, but before giving, one has to look at the motives, the person to whom one wants to give, the circumstances surrounding it, as well as other things, such as personal reasons.
1. When you don't have enough:
Some people are so good, to the extent that, when someone asks them for help, they do not consider themselves at all and what they have, or do not have. All they care about is pleasing the person who is in need. While this is good, it is not really ideal.
It is out of what you have, that you give to someone who doesn't have. Can you give what you don't have? It is not possible. If someone comes to you, for instance, to ask for five hundred naira, and you have just two hundred naira with you, will you go outside to borrow three hundred naira? Some people will do it. The implication of this is that you have given out your last money, and also indebted yourself to another person, just to give one person money.
Now, will you look at this as a charitable act, or as an act of foolishness? It depends on how you see it.
2. When the person doesn't need it:
There are some people who are so fond of giving to the rich, to people who obviously have enough already. The sad part is that these people do not even appreciate these gestures, as it is like throwing a pinch of salt on a pillar of salt. It actually makes no difference.
It happens in reality, for example, people who contribute large sums of money to buy expensive cars for celebrities.
These monies, if contributed for better purposes, will go a long way. Think of all the hungry children in the streets. Do you even know if your next-door neighbor is well? These are things you should consider so that you will not be giving out in vain.
3. When you don't feel like:
You know, sometimes, you might be compelled to give and the compulsion is so strong. However, there is something holding you back from giving. In fact, you might later end up giving the person the money, but you will feel really strange about it, sometimes even regretting why you gave it.
In this type of situation, the best thing is to not give at all. This is because, if you give, especially as you do not actually want to, you will receive no blessings in forcing yourself to give. Give only with a cheerful heart, and you will receive it in multiple folds.
4. When you know it will not be used for good:
How can a known smoker come to you, and you readily give them your hard-earned money? You have contributed to their smoking career because they will use it to do nothing else than to buy cigarettes for smoking.
This is the same thing with people you know are dubious, or love cheating, or are wasteful in spending. The money will never be used for something positive, so there is no need to give it to them. It is like throwing pearls at pigs. They will never see the value. Why not give it to those who need it for good purposes, instead? Their hearts will bless you, and you will put true smiles on their faces.
5. When giving will be a compromise:
If there's ever such a thing as conditional giving, it surely exists, and sadly, some people practice it. This is a situation where you give someone something with the agreement that they are giving you something in return, especially something in kind. This is nothing but wickedness.
Giving should be unconditional. You should give, out of the goodwill of your heart, and not because of what you are expecting from the person in return. If the person gives you things from their own discretion, it is a different case. But if you are the one that demanded it, then it is outrightly wrong, and you should desist from such ways in the nearest future.
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